When you think about it, weddings have plenty of tradition behind them. Even if you are noticeably breaking that tradition by getting married in a fast food restaurant for example, you’re still likely inviting your family. You’re still getting together on the day. You’re still earing clothes that help you look your best, and you’re still hoping for a wonderful day.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with tradition at all. However, if not careful, tradition can turn to artifice. What is artifice? Well, it’s a set of processes that we follow despite not particularly knowing why, or those habits that we simply agree on because that’s what we think we should do rather than actually making those decisions organically.
You cannot be expected to micromanage your wedding down to the tiniest level, because for anyone that may make you somewhat of a nightmare to deal with. However, you can decide to take some of the ‘shoulds’ out of your wedding plans, and instead focusing on the ‘coulds’ you would rather see.
Let us see what that looks like:
Don’t Be Afraid Of Eccentrism
Don’t be afraid to let your freak flag fly, or at the very least make unconventional decisions. Perhaps you’re not interested in wearing the wedding dress due to having less-than-defined male and female roles in your same-sex relationship. This would hardly be ‘eccentric,’ but it’s a convention that you might wish to break. Perhaps you’re not interested in having the standard figureheads on top of the cake, but a humorous scene that refers to some interesting part of your relationship. Don’t be afraid of adding a little personality in there. While a wedding template can be absolutely amazing to follow, there’s no harm in changing things up a little.
Invite Those Who You Truly Wish To Attend
Don’t force yourself to invite your second-cousin twice-removed who you simply cannot stand being around due to their negativity, despite what your parent tells you. This is your wedding. You are permitted to invite as many as you may afford or as few as you like. It’s completely up to you. This can help you enjoy the invitations process more, along with designing the best wedding invitations from Pure Invitation. This way, you feel as though you have more control
Don’t Feel Forced Into Tradition
Tradition is here for a reason. It is a tried and tested, proven manner of having one of the best experiences you can. But some stick to it too religiously. What if you wish for a new venue, not in a religious institution. What if you want to have a romantic song that isn’t some old ballad for your first dance? What if you’re tired of the overly-safe wedding bands your wedding planners have been suggesting? Don’t feel forced into tradition, but don’t shirk it completely either. This can help you make your best decisions along with your partner.
With this advice, you’re certain to fully take the artifice out of your wedding plans.
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